Thursday, August 8, 2013

25 IN A YEAR: TOYA RAE ADDITION

    So, today is my birthday..whoop whoop(I wrote this post on Tuesday...use your imagination).  There is sooooo much I want to do in life so I have decided to create a challenge for myself: 25 in a year.  Below you will find 25 things that I want to accomplish by 8/6/2014.  My HOPE is to have the entire list marked off within a year. Wish me luck and hold me accountable! xoxoT




   1.       Stay up past midnight (because I'm such a grandma when it comes to my sleep)
2.       Eat exotic food (because I'm a very picky eater)
3.       Write a 5-year plan (a vision board will suffice)
4.       Develop healthy habits
5.       Buy a Macbook Pro
6.       Print all of my picture and put them in albums
7.       Host a girl’s night IN
8.       Do something spontaneous (ehhhh that scares me)
9.       Learn to create a website
10.   Learn to knit
11.   Go natural (already in the works)
12.   Meet at least 5 new people
13.   Blog more often 
14.   Bake a cake from scratch
15.   Attend an NFL game ( I know I'm like the only person in the world that hasn't..go figure)
16.   Run the 10K [again…all of it]
17.   Give back to my community
18.   Spend an entire day in bed (oh that won’t be hard at all)
19.   Volunteer for a cause
20.   Buy an expensive handbag or pair of shoes (it’s easy to splurge on someone else, but not myself)
21.   Watch a classic movie (any suggestions?)
22.   Write a note to my little brother
23.   Create a family tradition
24.   Go to a concert
25.   COMPLETE a pinterest meal and/or DIY craft

Thursday, August 1, 2013

Getting to Know You (MWB link-up)

Mississippi Women Bloggers



1. What part of Mississippi are you from?
I am from a small town in Northeast Mississippi called Corinth!

2. How long have you been blogging?
I have been blogging since 2011

3. Why did you start blogging?
 For me, blogging is a way to give others a glimpse into the wonderful world of NaToya, haha.  Honestly, I've always had a passion for writing, and blogging is a very informal way to express my thoughts on various topics.

4. Tell us what we can expect when reading your blog.
My blog is like life....you never really know what you will get from day to day.  Overall you should expect humor, my thoughts/opinions on world-related news, and photos from family trips, etc.  Most of all, expect to receive a message from the heart.

5. What does your blog title mean?
As a child, my aunt always called me Chatty Cathy because I talked nonSTOP.  24 year later and nothing has changed.  I lost my aunt suddenly 9 years ago and this is a way to keep her tradition alive (so to speak).

6. What do you love about being part of Mississippi Women Bloggers?
I have always been interested in others.  I like to hear and see things from other's point of view.  Blogging affords me with that opportunity.  Oftentimes, bloggers share things going on in their personal lives that they would not and will not share openly on any other social network.  I like this because I feel as though I can express myself...free of judgement and there are several women on the sideline to cheer me on!

7. Who inspires you to blog?
Myself and my readers.  There have been several times when I posted a blog and never knew if it touched a soul, but suddenly I would get a message from someone saying my post was exactly what they needed to get through the day....THAT'S my motivation.

8. If you could pick a favorite blog post from this past year, what would it be?
Overcoming Rejection

9. Do your real life friends know you blog?  How do they respond?
YES! Only because I stalk them to ensure they read my posts!  They [sometimes] respond on the blog, but often to my personally with positive feedback.  They also share it on social media sites and THAT'S what makes me really really happy :) (hint hint)

10. What is your blogging routine (if you have one)?
Oh my! As much as I love routines...I do not have a blogging routine. But, since the topic has been brought up...I am making a promise to develop one!

11.  We all love social media! Are there any social media links you would like to share so we can follow you?
 Most of my social media pages are private [at times] due to the nature of my job.

12. Name 3 bloggers who have not joined Mississippi Women Bloggers that you would like to see join us!
Mindi Kern   http://mindiandjoey.blogspot.com/

BJ Mazurkiewicz http://bjandmark.blogspot.com/

(when I think of another I'll let you know haha)





Tuesday, July 23, 2013

My Country 'Tis of Thee??


The more things change, the more they remain the same. Since February 26, 2012 I have followed the George Zimmerman/Trayvon Martin case.  The Florida Stand Your Ground Law is comprised of three components which, in short, states:

 "that a person is presumed to have reasonable fear of imminent death or great bodily harm when using defensive force if an intruder has broken into his or her home or vehicle and is justified in using force; it states that a person does not have a duty to retreat if he or she believes death or bodily harm is imminent; and it provides immunity from criminal prosecution and civil action for justifiable use of force."

Being mindful of my current position, I took a backseat in fear of expressing my opinion. However, I was always taught to voice your opinion and never be afraid to stand up for those things in which I believe.

"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter."
-Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

With that being said, it would be remiss of me if I did not share my thoughts on such a tragedy. There are so many emotions mixed in this case, and opinions can quickly turn into heated arguements. My purpose for writing this is not to gain your respect, nor is it to change you or your opinion. I simply want to lay out the facts and consider our options moving forward. 

There was not a day that I did not watch the trial.  Even while on vacation I live streamed on my phone ...addicted, I know. BUT, I have a true passion for justice and I honestly felt like justice would be served. Sitting in my hotel room in Washington, DC several phones began beeping. We all received messages that in fact, the verdict was in. Our hearts were pounding as we watched, along with America, the fate of George Zimmerman. The clerk stated, "The State of Florida vs. George Zimmerman - verdict...we the jury find GEORGE ZIMMERMAN not guilty"

Wow...did we hear that correctly? Our entire demeanor changed. We went from hungry to almost no appetite at all. There was not a dry eye in the room; not because a 17 year old African American teen was gunned down by a 28 year old Hispanic neighborhood watch, but because a 17 year old unarmed child was murdered for walking to his dad's house wearing a hoodie-- carrying skittles & an Arizona ice tea.  A baby....murdered for doing absolutely nothing wrong but "looking suspicious" to a neighborhood watch. Because young black men in hoodies look suspicious, right?...thought so.


In my rear view mirror is the [expletive] law
So I...pull over to the side of the road
I heard "Son do you know why I'm stoppin' you for?"
Cause I'm young and I'm black and my hats real low?
Do I look like a mind reader sir, I don't know
Am I under arrest or should I guess some mo'?
"Well you was doin fifty-five in a fifty-fo' "
"Liscense and registration and step out of the car"
"Are you carryin' a weapon on you I know a lot of you are"
I ain't steppin out of [expletive] all my paper's legit
"Well, do you mind if I look round the car a little bit?"
Well my glove compartment is locked so are the trunk in the back
And I know my rights so you gon' need a warrant for that
"Aren't you sharp as a tack, you some type of lawyer or something'?"
"Or somebody important or somethin'?"
Nah, I ain't pass the bar but I know a little bit
Enough that you won't illegally search my [expletive]
"We'll see how smart you are when the K9 come"
I got 99 problems but a [expletive] ain't one
-Jay Z



I have played the scenario over and over in my mind and it's still not adding up. The jury has spoken so I'm not here to battle with the law (although I disagree)...I digress. However, we (African Americans) are often told to put our faith in the justice system but many of us are wondering why? It seems as though time after time we find ourselves racially  profiled and wrongly accused.

" A system cannot fail those it was never built to protect"-unknown

(NOTE: I did state earlier that it's a sad situation all around--taking race out of the equation and I stick by that. Had Trayvon been anything other than African American, I would still feel a sense of entitlement to fight for justice. However, he's not so lets quit pretending we live in a world where race isn't an issue and admit that it DID play a HUGE factor in this trial. Why you ask? Well I'm sure you heard the audio so I need not repeat. Zimmerman also had a history of reporting young "suspicious" black males...go figure.)


I have heard so many opinions of people trying to justify wrongful actions.  Some have stated that people  killed everyday.  First of all, is that okay with you? Secondly, we rarely see people get killed, the police fully aware of the who committed the crime, and that person walking free after little questioning . Something about that equation does not add up. George Zimmerman went to his bed the night of February 26, 2012 and Travyon Martin went to the morgue. Had it not been for OUR support via social media, Zimmerman would have never been arrested. Although many were displeased with the verdict, our voices were heard and ultimately led to a trial. For that, I am thankful.

My question is...where do we go from here? Do we sit back and allow our young black males to be victimized by the justice system? Or, do we stand united and demand equality? We owe our ancestors that much, right? I often think of Mrs. Rosa Parks who refused to give up her seat on the bus after a hard days work. I am reminded of Mr. Medgar Evers who fought, until his death, for equality.  My heart aches for Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. who was murdered in cold blood while fighting for our civil rights. These people lost their lives fighting for MY freedom; how dare I grow weary.

"Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up." Galatians 6:9

 I refuse to let their work go in vain. I do understand that one single blog, post to Facebook or twitter will not solve the underlying issue. However, it may spark conversation which may in turn lead to a movement ...who knows. Am I willing to take that chance? Of course!  Taking a stand doesn't mean rioting or any act of physical contact. There's a such thing called peaceful protests that are being held in cities nationwide. In addition, we could host town hall meetings in our own communities. In lieu of discussion, be sure to have a solution. Mr. Charles Blow made an posed an interesting question that weighed heavy on my heart. He asked, "What is the speed with which an African American male should walk so as to not be suspicious?"  Let that marinate.

Check out President Obama's reaction to the recent verdict.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MHBdZWbncXI

xoxo,
toyaRAE