What do YOU want?

I've listened to many brides...soon-to-be-brides...mothers..grandmothers...friends...etc. All have said "This is YOUR wedding. Do things the way YOU want." Hmmmm...is there truth to that statement? For me, yes.  So many women sacrifice the wedding of their dreams to satisfy parents, in-laws, friends, and [some] people that probably won't matter 10 years from now.  So after my initial "planning session" (which involved scribbling my likes and dislikes on a sheet of wide ruled paper) I asked myself a few questions:

1. Who is paying for the wedding? Although our parents may or may not be helping with the wedding it's ultimately OUR wedding.  I take all ideas and suggestions into consideration, but it's my choice.  I'm thankful that our parents want us to have our day as WE see fit. If you're not contributing, your suggestions should be minimal. Harsh? Ehh maybe, but just my opinion.

2. What is a "traditional" wedding? I think people just like saying that word...traditional. Ahhhh let's all meet up on highway 12 and burn the word traditional!!!! I want to look back and say there was nothing traditional about my day.  So what if I don't want elaborate centerpieces? Is that going to affect my marriage? I highly doubt it!

3. Who should we invite? I think the guest list ranks as the #1 cause of heart attacks. Please hear me out and don't get offended.  We are very appreciate of those that are genuinely happy for our union.  Joey and I have a ton of friends.  Therefore, if we invited every.single.person. we would have a guest list of 10000000 people.  Honestly, I don't see 100000000 people fitting in our budget.  SO, we ask that you respect our intimate ceremony. We do plan to have family and close friends.  But I highly doubt that I'll invite all of my facebook, twitter, and instagram friends ...sorry y'all.

With that being said.  When "obstacles" come my way, as I'm sure there will be plenty.  I will ask myself one question. "Will it ultimately affect my marriage?" If my answer is no, well............don't let the door hit ya where the good Lord split ya :)

xoxo
Future MRS. Sanders