FOCUS ON THE GOOD

Depression is a condition that reportedly affects 1 in 10 Americans at one point or another.

Over 80% of the people that have symptoms of clinical depression are not receiving any specific treatment for their depression.

The number of patients diagnosed with depression increases by approximately 20% per year.

Mississippi is among the 7 states with the highest rates of adults meeting the criteria for depression.

Overall, women have higher rates of depression than men.

Depression...a word that we are far too familiar with, yet we turn a blind eye at the mention of...depression.  While getting dressed this morning and watching the Today Show, I saw the news that actor Philip Seymour Hoffman died due to an apparent drug overdose. Although substance abuse and depression are different, they sometimes go hand in hand.  My question is...when will America abolish the negative connotation that comes along with the word depression? How many mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers etc to do have to lose before we acknowledge that depression is real?  I understand, first hand, why so many are hesitant to seek help and/or treatment.  I'll share..

In October of 2003, my family suffered an unexpected loss.  Never have I ever been so saddened by the loss of a loved one. Partially, because it was very unexpected and we were left with a newborn.  I was a freshman in high school and my sister was a freshman at Mississippi State University.  Therefore, after most returned to school/work, we were still left to grieve.  I remember walking back into my house after an extended stay with my grandmother.  There was an emptiness that I can not explain.  There were many days and nights that I would crawl in the bed with my mother and cry; wishing we could see my aunt's face again.  It's been 10 year since her passing, and though the pain is still present, we can rest in peace knowing that God is forever in control. 

I'm almost ashamed to admit this, but if it helps someone, I will gladly do so.  There were days when my attitude was t e r r i b l e. My mom probably wanted to choke me, haha! Some days I would be happy, some sad and some downright miserable, but I could not tell you why.  After months of this feeling, my mom found it necessary to see a therapist.  I will admit that I HATED therapy, but it helped.  We found that the root of my depression stemmed from the loss of my aunt.  I was young and had no idea how to cope...so my body reacted in a negative way.  After a few visits and medication, I felt like a new woman!  Don't get me wrong, there is no simple solution to depression.  It comes in different forms and affects individuals in different ways.  My story is just that...my story, and I am not ashamed to tell it.

I still struggle with anxiety and depression, but I have learned to make light of it. I'm no longer ashamed, and I will gladly lay on someone's couch and talk about all my "problems". Haha!  But seriously, I don't work well under pressure, so when I feel myself getting overwhelmed, I take a personal day to recuperate. I have found that meditating on God's word really helps my anxiety.  Life is difficult and sometimes we think we are the only ones with problems.  When these thoughts creep in my mind, I think of people in the Bible such as Job.  If Job had to struggle, what makes me think I am exempt?! If you or someone that you know is dealing with depression, don't ignore the symptoms. I think some of the shame comes from the portrayal via media/television.  When we hear depression we automatically think of people in straight jackets, bound to hospital beds.(ok maybe that was a little extreme) Or perhaps, you think of people sitting in a dark room with their heads buried under cover.  However, this may not be true.  In fact, some people that suffer from chronic depression put on smiles daily as if nothing is wrong.  

I challenge you to pay attention.  You don't have to watch someone's every move, but if you notice unusual behavior from a friend or family member, do not be afraid to speak up.  Your action just might save a life. Now, clear your mind of all negative connotations and know that although depression is real, it is not a death sentence. I live a normal life...I laugh, I cry and I sometimes make mistakes :) I'm just like everyone else.  But sometimes I get a little sad and need a little pick me up. If you can say the same, talk to someone...I promise it will help.  Focus on the good and remember, you are amazing.

xo

RAEofsunshine